Analyzing the secrets in families

A very interesting topic for psychologists are family problems, its causes, content and solutions. In this occasion I will speak about a report of Oliver James that discusses the motives of the secrets of parents and children in the family.

Some studies claim that in general people have secrets for altruistic reasons, to care for others. Many couples hide their infidelity to maintain the relationship, this does not mean that's good, but at least it is thinking about the other. When somebody are hiding something they generally feel bad about it, and statistics show that one in four relationships were found lying.

For adolescents, the reasons to keep secrets are usually because they want to feel independent, teenagers do not want to be under the supervision of their parents. But paradoxically when teenagers kept secret and hidden things, parents are more motivated to investigate and uncover its secrets (review computers, rooms), which eventually leads to teenagers have to hide their things even more, and so there are more secrets in the family.

There have been studies that found that parents believe their children are more hidden secrets that really make, and this perception is closely related to whether parents have been good or bad. All this eventually generates a vicious circle.

To read this study may enter to:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/sep/12/secrets-lies-perception